Mum's The Word!

"John 16: 21 - A woman giving birth to a child has pain because her time has come; but when the baby is born she forgets the anguish because of her joy that a child is born into the world." That woman is your mother!


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Xw4_arhOZmk&feature=g-all-lik

If you like me have ever held a newborn infant in our arms for the very first time or any other time, what do you feel? You feel such great fragility entrusted upon us, don't you? You feel a sudden rush of blood to the brain and a rush of overwhelming love shall engulf you. If you are the mother, you shall soon forget all the pain you went through in childbirth. So childbirth and the labour pain for a mother is necessary. If you have to give birth, choose the natural way and not opt for Cesarean section at first choice unless the situation demands it. 

People who are in a certain status or age to have children may never know it until some day when they experience it themselves because once you have children, your entire life undergoes many changes. There will be many moments of tears and pain, pride and joy as you witness the daily delights of watching your children grow and develop. The first time they opened their eyes at birth, that very first smile, a cackle, a laughter or when a baby wrap his or her hands around your finger. You clean their backsides when they poop, feed them when they are hungry. Now do not leave this to your domestic helpers for they are not the mother. What about sleepless nights when the children are unwell and you have to get up to sponge them from high fever?

Soon they are toddlers, you watch them with hawk eyes as they take their first steps. When they go to a nursery or childcare centre.  Their first day at school. Very often, parents have to wait up for their children. A mother would patiently wait for her child at school for hours too. Children bring about a sense of wonderment in our mundane adult life. They will stare at clouds, play with insects, examine frogs or pick up stones. A child is comforted when he falls and hurt himself and cries even louder for his/her mother's attention. 

Parental love for their children must be unconditional. A child should not be loved only when he or she is good-looking, gets you good examination results or must not be handicapped. When children are older, they become more independent, they may think that you wanted to control them and they may talk back at you. They may not remember the sore fingers or bruised knees that you have help healed. Now you are comforting them perhaps through broken relationships, their teenage angst and getting them back on their feet again. To do this, a mother provides great commitment and perseverance. 

Unbeknownst to us, often times someone big and important upstairs are using our children to train and develop us. There may be parents who face tremendous hardship bringing up their children for various reasons but they never gave up. Why? It was an act of commitment! No half measures. Through the years..., listen to Kenny Rogers: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7AEclIq1Ik4

Your children may be older now, some are taller than you. You are no longer needed in the same way, they have their friends and are independent now. Good teachings from parents do not guarantee the best behaved, most well taught or morally upright children. It just guaranteed good solid teachings but not teaching them well would mean giving up even that smallest chance.You may begin to watch what they have learned from you all these years. Above all, not what you ace in your exams but what values do you hold? You see them starting out in their own life. I wrote all these briefly so that you could remember some of the things your parents did for you over many years. Here's the song your mum would sing for you through Bryan Adams: "Everything I Do"

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZGoWtY_h4xo

Can you imagine a world without a mother's touch? This world has a history of the abuse of women yet mothers endured all hardship, made sacrifices and her role in the family is priceless. Mothers hold the family together. There was once a fire in the woods. After firemen braved themselves to subdue it, they found a bird in a crouched position with its wings spread. It was dead, probably smothered and also due to the intense heat. When they lifted it, they found a little bird unscathed and alive! Even animals and birds have the instinct of a mother.

Mothers are great but not all are. You may have to earn it. Just like fathers. As parents, ask yourself honestly if you are in the right mode. If not, start to get yourself aligned. Spare a moment and thought for children from the youngest to the oldest who were orphaned, lost their mums or whatever. Of course we celebrate Mother's Day and Father's Day but why don't they band together and make it Parents' Day? Honour thy father and thy mother is one of the Ten Commandments. Mum's the word. Happy Mother's Day! 

I wrote a piece called "Mother" way back in May 2010. I hope you will get inspired.

http://gforce-guru.blogspot.com/2010/05/mother.html

I would also like to share this 1977 song by Charlene, "I've Never Been To Me". It's about the non-committal to the committed real love of family by a woman "...fantasy about people and places as we'd like them to be" "...you know what truth is? It's that little baby you're holding...that's truth, that's love...".  A woman will come to a point in life where she wish she had taken time to have children or spent time with them "I've been crying for unborn children that might have made me complete but I took the sweet life and never knew the bitter from the sweet".

"Move like Harlow at Monte Carlo..." referred to American sex symbol Jean Harlow taking time with pleasures of the world. It's like when you are young you can be raising hell but when old you could be begging for a cup of coffee. The bittersweet song seemed to be sung to a woman, a housewife. a mother who may be wishing to trade her mundane life for the seemingly fantastic and exciting life of another woman but the singer of the song later found out what is important but it was too late. Her life was actually hollow and without purpose that's why I've never been to me.

So thank God for your mother! Listen to Charlene:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QhQWND9jKDA

Lastly, a beautiful story for you:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jvhUoiPt810&feature=related