Peace, Inner Peace 1 - A New Hope
Piece, Inner Piece that's when you are sporting new undergarments, a new dress, shirt or even a pair of old pants and somehow found there was something that was pricking at your skin. Perhaps it was the label or a loosen thread or simply your mood where everything seems to irritate you but it was just a minor prick on the skin of an inner piece of garment that can set you out for a bad day. So shall we have to wait till we are six feet underground to literally rest in peace. Ah, but that is different, choi choi choi!!
People by and large think that death is taboo but there are only two things that are certain in life - death and taxes. Confucius said: "It is better to be pissed off than to be pissed on." Haha, he didn't say that, I did.
People by and large think that death is taboo but there are only two things that are certain in life - death and taxes. Confucius said: "It is better to be pissed off than to be pissed on." Haha, he didn't say that, I did.
Look around us in the world today. You read the newspapers each day and you have mostly bad news screaming at you on the front page. Wars, recession, neighbours bickering, family members suing one another over inheritance. It is a terrible world out there that is why I read the newpapers from back to front since young commencing with the sports section. Despite all these, it is still a beautiful world out there, just that people made it ugly.
There are still many good people out there but because we stick to our own comfort zones or for fear of getting hurt in new relationships, we refrained from reaching out to many wonderful and undiscovered new friendship out there. Meantime, your circle of friends may dwindle as you may have offended a few of them or some of them had betrayed you and yet others have migrated and couple that with your busy business and career, you may soon find that you have fewer friends. Few people make friends quickly because they feel they could not speak first as when they open their mouths, gold nuggets might drop out.
There are still many good people out there but because we stick to our own comfort zones or for fear of getting hurt in new relationships, we refrained from reaching out to many wonderful and undiscovered new friendship out there. Meantime, your circle of friends may dwindle as you may have offended a few of them or some of them had betrayed you and yet others have migrated and couple that with your busy business and career, you may soon find that you have fewer friends. Few people make friends quickly because they feel they could not speak first as when they open their mouths, gold nuggets might drop out.
Some folks have asked me to share my thoughts about Inner Peace. I pick my thoughts from my observation, other's experience as well as my own. Therefore, just like you, I'm work in progress and is equally culpable, susceptible and vulnerable. However, before embracing any doctrines, always evaluate and put to test what is being taught or share it with someone who can also be a critique and can give you different perspectives and insights.
Relationship
Ain't it true to say that life is all about relationship, comradeship, friendship and ships. Ships are bridges that connects between countries and continents which is also what all relationship is about - to communicate and connect. For all that you have conquered in life, the successes, the trophies, the awards and the financial rewards, of what good is it if they could not be shared with loved ones and friends?
Of what good is wealth without health? Trophies without friends? Or living in a palace by yourself? Many rich and famous people turn to religion, philanthropy, charitable causes to enrich themselves and these are the wise ones because there could be no further conquest greater than helping mankind. They realised it brings them joy. But how does one defines success? Success is relative, since the more successful you are, the more relatives you have. Some define success as the quantity of money or possessions amassed like properties, exotic cars and watches. Others may rate feeling loved by people as more important, etc. Nothing wrong with that but success is not complete without balance.
Of what good is wealth without health? Trophies without friends? Or living in a palace by yourself? Many rich and famous people turn to religion, philanthropy, charitable causes to enrich themselves and these are the wise ones because there could be no further conquest greater than helping mankind. They realised it brings them joy. But how does one defines success? Success is relative, since the more successful you are, the more relatives you have. Some define success as the quantity of money or possessions amassed like properties, exotic cars and watches. Others may rate feeling loved by people as more important, etc. Nothing wrong with that but success is not complete without balance.
There are people with lots of money but have no time to spend or who refuse to spend.Yet others are great successes in their organisations, businesses but abject failures at home. Mostly, in everything there is a price to pay. No one can tell you what your priorities are. Everyone has 24 hours a day, what you make out of it is entirely yours alone. Your priority will determine and set the direction of your life.
Even if you pursue financial rewards there is nothing wrong with that if you do it honestly but if in pursuance of money, you find that your friendship with me, spending time with me has no financial reward, then you are in trouble, not me. Pursuing a better balance is paramount but it ain't easy and if the guy walking on a tightrope in a balancing act can do it, it was because he has been honing his skills for a long time. You can too. Set your priority, get a balance and start building powerful relationships with family members and friends.
Even if you pursue financial rewards there is nothing wrong with that if you do it honestly but if in pursuance of money, you find that your friendship with me, spending time with me has no financial reward, then you are in trouble, not me. Pursuing a better balance is paramount but it ain't easy and if the guy walking on a tightrope in a balancing act can do it, it was because he has been honing his skills for a long time. You can too. Set your priority, get a balance and start building powerful relationships with family members and friends.
The Golden Rule
Do to others what you want others do to you. This is such simple wisdom. Now count on your fingers how many people you have known have achieved that? Not too many for sure. Although we are superior beings, our instincts are like animals, more so when hurt or in anger. Unlike animals, we have faculties of thoughts, control and a conscience so we must never behave like one or else the zoo does not know how to distinguish the different primates to exhibit. I told you we are different, sikit atas.
We live in a world where people put on air, build up egos and temperaments which are fragile. Some go around name dropping big names in power or of famous people thus alienating others around them. Applying double standards where some guys do that and they were wrong while doing so yourself was necessary due to your own justification. Do you talk to people or talk down to people? Do you talk but never listen and brush people off without even hearing their version?
Did you ever realise that you have two ears and one mouth so that you could listen twice as much as you talk. We learn nothing by talking while listening to others give you new insights and experiences. Do you listen to children, the lowly persons or are they unworthy of your attention or you would say I would like to listen to them but I do not have the time?
We live in a world where people put on air, build up egos and temperaments which are fragile. Some go around name dropping big names in power or of famous people thus alienating others around them. Applying double standards where some guys do that and they were wrong while doing so yourself was necessary due to your own justification. Do you talk to people or talk down to people? Do you talk but never listen and brush people off without even hearing their version?
Did you ever realise that you have two ears and one mouth so that you could listen twice as much as you talk. We learn nothing by talking while listening to others give you new insights and experiences. Do you listen to children, the lowly persons or are they unworthy of your attention or you would say I would like to listen to them but I do not have the time?
Do you catch people only doing wrong? Can you catch people doing right instead? There are too many people doing wrong that you will be overhelmed trying to do that. But fewer people are doing the right things which are great and must be highlighted. The person doing it right must be told about it and then highlighted for all others to emulate. It must be appreciated.
If you find someone doing something right, doing a good job, a thoughtful or kind act, tell them so and thank them. It could be your staff, your maid, a waiter or even a stranger and family member. Do you praise your children, spouse, parents, siblings, staff, colleagues and friends when they did a wonderful thing? Let them know they have the power to create or destroy. Do you wait for others to "do unto others what you want others do unto you" before you reciprocate or do you take that first step? What happens if you do it and they don't?
Let me tell you that you do not loose anything. Anything which is good and that is given will never go wasted. Whatever acts of kindness, compassion, love which is given will touch someone even if you thought it went unnoticed or has not been reciprocated sometimes those merely watching could be touched. A recipient of goodwill will inevitably respond in kind not necessary to you but to someone else who in turn touch another person.
Some day, when you least expect it, someone, even a stranger reach out to help you and you would never knew that it could have been you who started this. But don't go around physically touching people, you could get into serious trouble and please don't say GuruGeoff said so. Gandhi said" "An eye for an eye and the world will go blind". This is about hitting out at one another and always remember the Golden Rule - Do to others what you want others do to you.
If you find someone doing something right, doing a good job, a thoughtful or kind act, tell them so and thank them. It could be your staff, your maid, a waiter or even a stranger and family member. Do you praise your children, spouse, parents, siblings, staff, colleagues and friends when they did a wonderful thing? Let them know they have the power to create or destroy. Do you wait for others to "do unto others what you want others do unto you" before you reciprocate or do you take that first step? What happens if you do it and they don't?
Let me tell you that you do not loose anything. Anything which is good and that is given will never go wasted. Whatever acts of kindness, compassion, love which is given will touch someone even if you thought it went unnoticed or has not been reciprocated sometimes those merely watching could be touched. A recipient of goodwill will inevitably respond in kind not necessary to you but to someone else who in turn touch another person.
Some day, when you least expect it, someone, even a stranger reach out to help you and you would never knew that it could have been you who started this. But don't go around physically touching people, you could get into serious trouble and please don't say GuruGeoff said so. Gandhi said" "An eye for an eye and the world will go blind". This is about hitting out at one another and always remember the Golden Rule - Do to others what you want others do to you.
Worries
You only have two things to worry about in life - whether you are well or sick. If you are well, then there is nothing to worry about. But if you are sick, then there are two things to worry about - whether you get better or worse. If you get better, there is nothng to worry about but if you get worse then there are two things to worry about - whether you will survive or you will die. If you survive, then there is nothing to worry about but if you die then there are two things to worry about - whether you go to heaven or go to hell.
If you go to heaven then there is nothing to worry about but if you go to hell, you will be so busy shaking hands with friends that you will have no time to worry. We worry about everything - the spouse, your parents, children, siblings, business, work, career, finance, the stock market, properties, pets, your healthe, your looks, etc. We are perpetual worriers!
How many of us know that confidence seeps away when we worry and almost all of our worries never took place or when it did, it was an entirely different situation and ending which was much better than we could ever imagined. Worrying is a negative trait in human that can be destructive and the fact remains stoically true that worries does nothing to improve the situation but only plunders your mind as your energy and whatever positivities that remain ebb away. Worries make us edgy and jittery, make wrong choices and poor decisions and rob us of our sleep. I feel the best thing to deal a blow to it is to have a good night's sleep. Sleep is a weapon and most of us do not have enough of it.
If you go to heaven then there is nothing to worry about but if you go to hell, you will be so busy shaking hands with friends that you will have no time to worry. We worry about everything - the spouse, your parents, children, siblings, business, work, career, finance, the stock market, properties, pets, your healthe, your looks, etc. We are perpetual worriers!
How many of us know that confidence seeps away when we worry and almost all of our worries never took place or when it did, it was an entirely different situation and ending which was much better than we could ever imagined. Worrying is a negative trait in human that can be destructive and the fact remains stoically true that worries does nothing to improve the situation but only plunders your mind as your energy and whatever positivities that remain ebb away. Worries make us edgy and jittery, make wrong choices and poor decisions and rob us of our sleep. I feel the best thing to deal a blow to it is to have a good night's sleep. Sleep is a weapon and most of us do not have enough of it.
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