Fireproof Your Family

I hurt my right arm at the joints from the elbow right up to my shoulder while golfing some weeks ago but I suspect the injury could have been aggravated by my sleeping position and have since yet to have fully recovered. This was the first time I have an injury in eight years of golf. There's still a twitching pain when stretched which leads me to think that I might as well take a hiatus and a good rest for the year and make a comeback with a vengeance next year hopefully by January 2010 (that's a year) but unfortunately I do not have the "Privacy" to go to. Anyway, the inclement weather makes golfing difficult - playing two holes and resting for half an hour, play another two and stop for 45 minutes.

A friend who is a very proficient golfer has to be going for a scheduled knee surgery soon and he is probably golfing the right way with all the weight transfer hurting his left knee but we warned him that it looked like Tiger's injury may not be due to golf after all with all the new evidence that has surfaced.
 

There was talk that Tiger detested his dad's philandering ways - dad was an organiser for his soldiers to looked for women (Singaporean pronunciation is Orkweeniser) while in Nam when he was a teenager and yet inadvertently he is doing exactly what he detested. Why? Haven't we also read that some children growing up in disjointed families or who suffered abuse or violence would grow up without love and full of anger and hatred dishing out more of the same to others including their own children and family? Children who long for their parents' love but didn't have that would grow up not being able to accept love. Those who detested their parents gambling or drinking ways would end up doing exactly the same thing. Didn't I say that before that children may not listen to what parents say but they'll do what parents do eventually.

Some people think it is a some sort of a curse in a family. It seems that way but it is not. When you reach a Mature 18 or a Restricted (Artistic) 21 you ought to have a mind of your own and the wisdom that follows and you cannot allow past wrongs to continue in the same vein as it has affected you. You have the power to stop passing the buck to your family and into the next generation. Look around you and you will surely find these things happening all around us.

A person who grew up without love will think "I grew up this way without love and I'm still around and doing fine so why can't you take the same sh*t? What's the big deal?" When somebody becomes the boss, he would think: "I got tortured all along by unreasonable bosses, so you should get the same and more now that I'm the boss and why not?" Do you think that this is a very strange analogy? Shouldn't it be the other way around which is since I have no love when young and I got bullied and pushed around, I must make sure that these diseases must be put to an end. The bug stops here.

Whatever I have suffered, found terrible and unbearable must be banished and not recreated and passed on. If you don't, who continued with the so-called curse? However, as I have warned you before, doing the right thing is an arduous and lonely job. Sometimes, you will feel exasperation. Stick to it like a postage stamp because a postage stamp is stuck to its job till it reaches the final destination.

As I have mentioned in a recent blog article, I would strongly recommend that you watch this movie which was voted as "The No.One Inspirational Movie Of The Year!" from the creators of "Facing The Giants". All husbands and wives must watch this, do not miss it! The entire family should watch it including your children. This is "Fireproof" which has a tag line similar to that of a fireman - "Never Leave Your Partner Behind". Dr. Gary Smalley, Best-Selling Author and Marriage Champion wrote: "Amazing! Action-packed, heartwarming, and a great resource to help strengthen and affirm marriages!" Joe Gibbs, Owner of Joe Gibbs Racing - "Fireproof is an entertaining and challenging reminder of what it takes to win in marriage!"

The synopsis is basically one where at work, inside burning buildings, Captain Caleb Holt lives by his old firefighters adage: Never leave your partner behind. At home, in the cooling embers of his marriage, he lives by his own rules. His job is to rescue others. Now Caleb is ready to face his toughest job ever...rescuing his wife's heart.

Why is it a must watch? Simply because it has a bit of everything is us - our own characters, habits, relationships, the way we think, feel, talk, selfishness, etc. We often say things in a rush or in anger for example. We hurt people with what we say or do it to even those very close to us. You are going to see yourself in the movie I thought. It will probably bring a few tears too but you will come off much better as a person and stronger. Go get hold of this movie. If you can't find it, I have a copy of the DVD. I think there will be a long queue for it. I challenge you to watch it. It is for you and me! We buy insurance for the house and fireproof our premises. Now we must fireproof our family. Watch it for the love of your family!